Your kinky Vanguard

Approachable BDSM
education and coaching

What are you curious to learn?

While I enjoy being an intimidating Domina during power exchange sessions, as an educator I strive to create a safe place where you can explore your taboo fantasies and get the answers you need. I believe we are all a little twisted and my nearly 30 years working in kink has confirmed that at every turn.

Kink for the Curious

“Kink for the Curious” provides a whimsical, shame-free introduction to kink and BDSM, inspired by the activity books I enjoyed as a child. I aimed to create a book that makes learning about kink almost as enjoyable as participating in it. “Kink for the Curious” is filled with kinky color pages, puzzles, and reliable information for those who are just beginning to explore BDSM and power exchange. Plus, it can be a valuable tool for introducing kink to friends who may feel intimidated or apprehensive about it.

Purchase on Amazon, locally here in Portland Oregon at SheBop the Shop or in person at one of my classes.

Coaching Options

Whether you would like to learn soft skills like communication or stepping into your dominance, or hard skills, like how to use a flogger or paddle, I’ve got you covered. I can provide a variety of bondage bottoms, CBT/VT bottoms, masochists for practicing with impact tools — even a needle bottom for learning play piercing.

On line

Better suited for soft skills and kinky life coaching, video offers the chance to connect no matter where in the world we find ourselves. Video coaching and training can happen through Zoom, Skype, or Google Meet. Rate starts at $300 per hour (or $1000 for 4 sessions payable up front) and include a follow-up email with links and resources.

In person

Hands-on coaching in Sub Rosa can combine coaching and co-topping my submissive for individuals who learn better through practical examples. Couples coaching can involve both discussion and co-playing. Discounted rental of Sub Rosa immediately following our session is also possible.

Immersive

Visit Portland and leave with touristy tales for your family and juicy stories for your special friends. Immersive experiences are personalized multi-day experiences and include a combination of educational opportunities, femdom gatherings, as well as sightseeing in the picturesque PNW with a kinky twist. These are bespoke BDSM experiences that combine your vanilla and kinky interests.

Demo bottoms available

If you are interested in learning a skill but don’t have a bottom to learn on, I can provide bottoms for a wide variety of activities such as impact, pegging, and needle play.

Classes Offered

I teach monthly at my kink space, Sub Rosa, as well as occasionally online. Sign up for my newsletter or check Sub Rosa’s events page to see the current schedule.

Kink for the curious

Based on my book, Kink for the Curious, this class is aimed at those new to kink. It’s intended to give a brief overview of the possibilities of BDSM.

Impact Play

A fun way to learn about a variety of impact tools and the safe way to use them. This class also covers negotiation, consent, and aftercare.

Chastity

From a weekend, to a full year, (or more) I love to share my experience with one of my favorite ways to control my toys – Orgasm Control.

Hypnosis

I use erotic hypnosis as a form of mind control to embed kinky suggestions and reinforce training through both guided voice and pendulum induction.

Mindfuckery

Mindfuckery for Femmes talks about the ways in which we can flip the patriarchal script and lean into our inner mean girl during play.

Sissification

I’m probably most well-known for my love of emasculation and sissification. I love to think that I fight the patriarchy one pair of panties at a time.

Classes Offered with Mistress Viola

While we co-teach several classes together, the monthly FemDom Bootcamp and the quarterly FemDom Salon are by far the most popular and sell out each time they are offered. Check Sub Rosa’s events page to see when we’ll be teaching next!

Fem Dom Bootcamp

This is a three-hour, coached play party. We provide demo bottoms, model negotiation, and set you loose to learn by doing. Our demo bottoms are able to guide you through both the physical skills as well as share what draws them to their particular type of play. Mistress Viola and I, as well as support dommes, are on hand to demonstrate as well. Each month is different with new bottoms and new activities.

FemDom Salon

This is a two-hour conversation to help you find your inner femdom, step into dominance, conjure confidence, and embrace your empowered self. In this class, Mistress Viola and I will dispel myths, discuss archetypes, and teach you to build your own personal kinky lexicon. This is a great class to take in conjunction with FemDom Bootcamp.