I love chastity. Especially long term chastity with people I can tease and play with, then lock up and send home. Maybe I let them cum? Maybe not. Maybe… I’ll ruin it.

You know I like to keep you guessing.

And so very frustrated.

But I also love to share my love of chastity with other femmes. I love to see that Ah Ha! Moment when they realize how much they like it. Because so often, they find some aspect that clicks with them. So often I’ll have couples come to me and while they play with the idea of chastity, when he asks to get out, she never makes him beg. She worries about his prostate health (a myth) and his comfort (he’ll get use to it, or find another cage that is more comfortable) or blue balls (big deal. It’s no monthly menstrual pain. He can get used to it), and just, doesn’t understand the joy of telling a very worked up, frustrated man, NO.

Because we are conditioned to appease men. And especially men we are in relationships, not matter how fleeting, who have erections. Some of the women I don’t understand the true joy or telling a man NO, and locking it up for even longer. There are so many benefits to being in control of their key and not letting them out. Because each situation is different, it can take time for the femme to figure out what the benefit. Sometimes it’s about locking them up while she is out of town and knowing she they will be VERY excited to see her when she returns – not having exhausted their dominant arm in her absence. Or perhaps he just becomes more docile and devoted after some time in the cage.

And of course, occasionally when he wants to stay in chastity, he will still request to get out and eventually pester his way out and then feel disappointed. Often he’s simply asking because he wants to hear her say NO. Repeatedly, and without hesitation. He enjoys feeling that bit of control exerted, but she’ll be tired of hearing it so simply give in to stop him from pestering her like a puppy.

Getting past these issues, and finding your chastity “why” as well as a properly fitting chastity cage can take time, but it is WELL worth the reward when you do.

In this class, I will be talking over all of these topics, as well as safety and health concerns, and of course, talking about negotiation and managing expectations.

AND THERE WILL BE A GIVEAWAY!

Oxy-Shop will be sending to one lucky ticket holder. You need not be present to win, but it is more fun that way! Every ticket holder will have access to a recording of the class for 30 days.

Oxy-shop sent me the in the picture above. They have a huge selection of both popular chastity devices as well as lots of customizable steel and 3D printed ones of And because finding a comfortable chastity device to wear long term (and you do want to wear it long term don’t you?) they have several bundles as well as a section where you can order extra rings etc.

STILL not sure which device to order? Or, like me, overwhelmed with the choices and really want them all, they have a with posts about chastity, as well as BDSM and power exchange in general.

See you on the 30th!